Have the church leadership thrown away their manners, their beliefs and their standard?
If you feel me speaking to you, I may very well be!
1. You don't order people to do work or serve somewhere. You don't own your congregation and do not have the right to make them do something. So telling them things like, "you better do this" or "you have to do this" or "you will be doing this"is not an option for you. The power of suggestion and asking is in play. If they have made a commitment you roster them and get confirmation.
So don't forget the P's and Q's that your parents taught you!
2. You don't tell the team that these are the rules now and not remember to apply them when someone else comes into the picture or someone fights or forgets it. Stand by the decision you make and the vision you have and get the church to understand why it is important to do certain things, and how to do them.
3. You can't "expect" your team to be inspired by themselves. You need to inspire them. Encourage them. Bless them. Thank them. Tell all of them how their contribution and effort play an integral part of church growth.
4. Don't make decisions for them. Your church is filled with people not robots, people with feelings, time schedules, likes and dislikes. I highly doubt anyone wants you to tell them how and when to live their lives. Again, suggestion is key.
5. Don't take advantage of those that are more shy or on the quiet side when it comes to speaking their mind. Be a leader who gives them an opportunity to speak up, make their own mind about something and gives them the time to make that decision. Don't be a PUSHOVER. A leader who will encourage the person to be honest with their feelings, belief systems and brings up leaders even if they seem to be the quiet type.
Your passion for God must not make people want to run away from you but rather see it as a desirable quality.
6. Stop being a gossiper. I find it insulting that I have to say and see this but it stands true to some that come to you and tell you something wrong or bad about another person. Then go to the other person and say something about you to them. Stop being a back stabber. Let your words be few when it comes to this. Be wise and please do not think that people have not noticed when you are doing it.
As a leader you must know that you are being watched and people will take you for your word(s).
7. Stop being jealous and stop enabling the competition spirit . Stop wanting to be someone else. Just because I can sing doesn't mean I can be or make me want to be Darlene Zschech. I rather be me and allow God to work through me. So stop being jealous and stop trying to "out do" someone who is at your same level of serving at church. Whether it is between worship leaders, preachers or pastors. Be yourself and make yourself available to God so He can do amazing things through you.
8. As leaders we all have a platform whether it is huge or small. When you are serving make sure you are not doing it with a mirror in front of you. This life of servanthood isn't for yourself. It isn't for you to feel good, to check whether you sound and look perfect and better than another. It is so that the church can get closer to God, find themselves in Him and allow Him to work on their hearts so they can grow and become who God has called them to be. So when you are up there it is SO NOT ABOUT YOU.
Work for God, not for yourself. I have seen my share of people fall off their high horses when they don't get this very foundational rule.
9. Evaluating a leader's performance and telling him/her how they are doing is not criticizing them or telling them that they are not valuable but that they have potential and you want to see that growth in them.
When the pastor I was interning with, gave me a very genuine, honest evaluation and said I had to do better, if I grumbled and mumbled under my breath, I would not have been able to learn from him and grow as a leader myself. It is a day I will always remember as someone took the time to care enough to tell me. So be an adult when dealing with each other. Stop hiding from your responsibility to improve and grow your leaders and stop being a baby when you have to hear it and deal with it.
Be an adult, submit, learn and see God manifest in more amazing ways than you can imagine.
10. Preparation, learning and rehearsing are keys to anything we want or need to do. Whether it is an event, church service, prayer meeting, worship, leadership, preaching, don't think it as not important cause it will affect not only you but your team and your church eventually.
Don't be selfish and not care. Make sacrifices so that what you put out on your platform is only your best. After all, everything you do, you do for God, right? Be ready to put in the effort and stop making excuses of being busy. If at work you have to prepare, if at home you have to prepare, if at every relationship you have to work, then it is very obvious that when you are doing things for church you have to prepare.
So even if God changes you agenda by surprise you are prepared for Him to do that as well.
Side Note:****
This post was formerly known as "Things Church Leaders Need to Get Straight", but some guys felt it was too harsh and some felt that it should not have been said this way, but here's the thing I had to hear it, see it, experience it and live under it. And I know that a lot of people feel this way, it is our responsibility to bring change where it is needed so our church can be healthy and strong and the people that come there will feel at home, safe as they should always feel than feeling attacked. So I hope that all that read this will see my heart behind wanting the best for everyone and bringing to light the things that matter. Much love to all!
If you feel me speaking to you, I may very well be!
1. You don't order people to do work or serve somewhere. You don't own your congregation and do not have the right to make them do something. So telling them things like, "you better do this" or "you have to do this" or "you will be doing this"is not an option for you. The power of suggestion and asking is in play. If they have made a commitment you roster them and get confirmation.
So don't forget the P's and Q's that your parents taught you!
2. You don't tell the team that these are the rules now and not remember to apply them when someone else comes into the picture or someone fights or forgets it. Stand by the decision you make and the vision you have and get the church to understand why it is important to do certain things, and how to do them.
3. You can't "expect" your team to be inspired by themselves. You need to inspire them. Encourage them. Bless them. Thank them. Tell all of them how their contribution and effort play an integral part of church growth.
4. Don't make decisions for them. Your church is filled with people not robots, people with feelings, time schedules, likes and dislikes. I highly doubt anyone wants you to tell them how and when to live their lives. Again, suggestion is key.
5. Don't take advantage of those that are more shy or on the quiet side when it comes to speaking their mind. Be a leader who gives them an opportunity to speak up, make their own mind about something and gives them the time to make that decision. Don't be a PUSHOVER. A leader who will encourage the person to be honest with their feelings, belief systems and brings up leaders even if they seem to be the quiet type.
Your passion for God must not make people want to run away from you but rather see it as a desirable quality.
6. Stop being a gossiper. I find it insulting that I have to say and see this but it stands true to some that come to you and tell you something wrong or bad about another person. Then go to the other person and say something about you to them. Stop being a back stabber. Let your words be few when it comes to this. Be wise and please do not think that people have not noticed when you are doing it.
As a leader you must know that you are being watched and people will take you for your word(s).
7. Stop being jealous and stop enabling the competition spirit . Stop wanting to be someone else. Just because I can sing doesn't mean I can be or make me want to be Darlene Zschech. I rather be me and allow God to work through me. So stop being jealous and stop trying to "out do" someone who is at your same level of serving at church. Whether it is between worship leaders, preachers or pastors. Be yourself and make yourself available to God so He can do amazing things through you.
8. As leaders we all have a platform whether it is huge or small. When you are serving make sure you are not doing it with a mirror in front of you. This life of servanthood isn't for yourself. It isn't for you to feel good, to check whether you sound and look perfect and better than another. It is so that the church can get closer to God, find themselves in Him and allow Him to work on their hearts so they can grow and become who God has called them to be. So when you are up there it is SO NOT ABOUT YOU.
Work for God, not for yourself. I have seen my share of people fall off their high horses when they don't get this very foundational rule.
9. Evaluating a leader's performance and telling him/her how they are doing is not criticizing them or telling them that they are not valuable but that they have potential and you want to see that growth in them.
When the pastor I was interning with, gave me a very genuine, honest evaluation and said I had to do better, if I grumbled and mumbled under my breath, I would not have been able to learn from him and grow as a leader myself. It is a day I will always remember as someone took the time to care enough to tell me. So be an adult when dealing with each other. Stop hiding from your responsibility to improve and grow your leaders and stop being a baby when you have to hear it and deal with it.
Be an adult, submit, learn and see God manifest in more amazing ways than you can imagine.
10. Preparation, learning and rehearsing are keys to anything we want or need to do. Whether it is an event, church service, prayer meeting, worship, leadership, preaching, don't think it as not important cause it will affect not only you but your team and your church eventually.
Don't be selfish and not care. Make sacrifices so that what you put out on your platform is only your best. After all, everything you do, you do for God, right? Be ready to put in the effort and stop making excuses of being busy. If at work you have to prepare, if at home you have to prepare, if at every relationship you have to work, then it is very obvious that when you are doing things for church you have to prepare.
So even if God changes you agenda by surprise you are prepared for Him to do that as well.
Side Note:****
This post was formerly known as "Things Church Leaders Need to Get Straight", but some guys felt it was too harsh and some felt that it should not have been said this way, but here's the thing I had to hear it, see it, experience it and live under it. And I know that a lot of people feel this way, it is our responsibility to bring change where it is needed so our church can be healthy and strong and the people that come there will feel at home, safe as they should always feel than feeling attacked. So I hope that all that read this will see my heart behind wanting the best for everyone and bringing to light the things that matter. Much love to all!
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